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My 11 To Do’s For 2010

These are likely not going to be earth shattering to you and some of them were mentioned in this post What Price Would You Pay For Your Dream Job? but since I have been sharing like have been the last week some friends are asking about what 2010 is going to look like for me.

You will find that 2010 is going to be as much about my personal life as the professional. While not overdue (unless you ask my longtime friends) it is time to invest as much in the personal me as I have in the professional part over the past few years.

In no particular order:

Learn to swim

Seriously, I do not know how to swim. As a kid I had a minor reaction to chlorine so when I was in a pool or enclosed hot tub my breathing would get a bit labored. When we went out of town the first and only thing I did was go fishing. No fear of the water but rather than be in it I was on it.

Find a slow dance partner

As if I have not declared this enough by now but it is time for me to explore the dating scene. Seriously, for real this time. I said this a few years ago in an email to some friends and I think they will disregard this statement.

And not so much the dating scene but find “the one”. I am not looking to be crazy bachelor guy but find chemistry, a connection.

My friends are already saying prove it. OK, I will. Any “referrals”?

Oh yeah, it would be awesome if she could tolerate my college football addiction :)

Ask for help

This one is simple and no need to get specific. It’s not an inferiority thing or I feel weak for doing it, just not my thing. But I need to ask for a hand when I need one.

Less thinking more doing

This one is simple too. I have a tendency to over think, over analyze, over project what will happen. Less brain, more brawn.

Build a think tank, consortium, dream team, loose confederation of colleagues

I am looking for folks who walk the talk in my local Recruiter/HR world. Not the folks who train on how they would use Twitter, LinkedIn, Social Media in general, SEO, job ads, build passive candidate pools, etc but who actually do.

And more than just why we should be doing these things, I want to elevate the conversation on how. I want to share my experiences with those doing the work who will do the same back. Many of us are two years in and should be able to show results, for better and worse.

While focused on my Minnesota colleagues I am looking for those around the U.S. who are doing this and not just talking about it.

There are opportunities to share material, promote each other for webinars, trainings and events. There are opportunities to cross promote services. Interested? Send me an email.


Last year between speaking at Recruiter/HR, Job Seeker and Social Media events and online with webinars I was in front of 2,200+ people and that does not count webinars where an attendee listened to more than one session. Feedback was really, really positive with requests to increase the number and kinds of sessions.

While I did everything for free last year some things in 2010 will come with a modest fee. I would like to be able to use the revenue stream to hire a full time marketing person. I need the help and I know having an extra brain and pair of hands I can do more in less time with less stress allowing me to focus on the other things on this list.

Deeply engage with and introduce my friends and colleagues to each other

I realized last year that my friends rarely cross over from each other. What I mean is, I have my long time friends going back to the college years, the Recruiter/HR friends and those in IT and “social media”.

So not only are my long time friends not integrated with my professional ones even the professional folks are a bit siloed (is that a word?).

Add on that because I have been so busy I have not seen some people in a really long time. To remedy this I am going to try scheduling Happy Hour’s and instead of inviting everyone keeping it to 20 or so knowing that 7-10 might be able to make it. A large enough group to have some fun with but small enough so everyone gets a chance to mingle.

Support local and affordable recruiter events

This past year our Minnesota Recruiters groups really hit its stride. I think I am done finding ways to mess it up, not that anyone ever really sees it. The content of the events is always well received, feedback is very positive. There is growing interest from other cities to do something similar. No, I am not going to get into the event planning business (oh hell no) but if I can in anyway help get an event put together, help with logistics, find speakers or otherwise promote an event I will.

So much good stuff comes out of our events and I gladly put our content against what the national events are doing. And assuming companies are going to continue to not train their staff or not want to send them to a warm destination these local events will likely grow in popularity and necessity.

Just be quiet

I need to turn my brain off at night. I need more time in a fishing boat and more hours on the bike. I just need my brain to be quiet. (and for all you laughing at me about being quiet generally, I hear your laughter and will find you...)

Truly enjoy the moment

I need to celebrate things more than I do. The most recent example is from the last Minnesota Recruiters event. We had three amazing events this year and after each one instead of taking a deep breath, seeing the good that came out of it, enjoying what was done I already move on to the next event.

This has something I have always done going back to when I was a kid playing sports. Instead of enjoying a victory I would be thinking about who we played next, how we could have played better and how I could improve.

I cheat myself and I need to stop it.

Blog more

I get handcuffed because there is so much to write about, so many half done blog posts and links to share that I get stressed. It feels like a job that I am not doing well. I need to get back to my blog as therapy for me and a way to share what I am reading, who I am following, share a rant (OK many rants) and think out loud.

Time to feed the blog.



HR Minion

Go and kick some ass this year Paul! :)


"Deeply engage with and introduce my friends and colleagues to each other"

That one really spoke to me. I have many friends in many groups, but they don't often crossover. Now I'm in this recruiter/food blogger/social media coordinator world that makes things even more confusing.

I also hear you on the blogging one. I have so many ideas and partial posts it's obnoxious.

Great goals! Keep at it. Learn to swim!


Take some dancing lessons and create videos on YouTube for the recruiting community. I'll bet 90% of the people don't know how to dance well and are missing out on a lot of basic fun for that reason.

Jennifer McClure

I've always heard that once you put something in writing and tell others - you're kinda committed. :)

I have no doubt that now that you've set your mind to do these things, you will get them done. It may also help to track your progress and report to a friend (or your blog readers) your progress. Accountability really helps.

Go forth and conquer my friend!

Jenny DeVaughn

Love the variety of goals you are going to reach in 2010!
Can't wait to see you in June at the Social Recruiting Summit and Tweetup.

Here's something I think about almost every day. Our lives are all about sex & death. We get jobs, buy stuff, and do things with our time in order to have sex.

We also make decisions, get jobs, do things, and have sex to prolong life and avoid death.

No matter where you are and what you do,there are two things that probably motivate you: sex and death.

Or am I just talking about myself here?

Sarah Gasparini

What a great list. I suspect you will find that people are fighting to get on your happy hour short list as much as they have the MN Recruiter events!

Build - Remember I am with TCHRA and would love to link with you to see if we can find ways to support one another. If you are ever interested in presenting to TCHRA (potential audience of 1200) I would love to discuss.


Great list Paul, and an aggressive agenda for 2010! Looking forward to partnering with you on a few of these. Happy New Year!

BTW, I agree with Animal. Huge possibility here. I just bought the domain

Arik Hanson

I'd like to see you focus on the last two, Paul. But, #9 certainly intrigues me. I'm not sure I've EVER seen you quiet ;)

I'm glad you have a solid list of annual goals. It's a practice I've used for years and I'm always surprised how effective it is from a transformational thinking perspective. You'd be surprised how much you can stretch yourself if you just challenge yourself.


Joshua Kahn

Pauly doughnuts, go forth my friend. Good list. I suggest focusing on the "dancing partner" piece first. Done right, it will facilitate all the other goals.

Might I suggest a profile for your ideal gal. (Looks - that's up to you.) How about a U of M alum, bleeds maroon and gold, who happens also to be a skilled event organizer, and avid biker. She has at least 250 twitter followers ;), and north of 3000 tweets.

That's a start anyhow. Maybe you should write and post a description of sorts to the old blog here hmm?

You will make someone a fine husband and some munchkins a great dad. I agree with Josh's suggestion that you create a profile for the type of woman you want even if you choose to not post it publicly. Send it my way. We know some wonderful women who deserve wonderful men like you.

Minnesota Headhunter

Shauna: Thankfully so far there has been some ass whooping and so far not mine.

Crystal: I decided to just finish them and hit post. There is a long line of them but it is getting me back in the groove. Give it a try.

Animal: Dance lessons are on the extended version and no doubt the video would go viral at my expense.

Jennifer: At the top of this post I am going to add a Win/Loss/Tie and come back here every Monday and grade myself for the previous week.

Jenny: You, me, drinks and Sponge Bob Square Pants.

Laurie: Sex and death... I think if you get it down to the lowest common denominator you might have it right.

Sarah: I am interested in the webinars and am wondering not just if I do one but if we can get "whoever" and do a webinar a month and promote within all the groups. This way we get content to our colleagues more efficiently. Read that as less work for us :)

Jason: No more talking we need to start walking. Hell, I‘ll take crawling but time to move.

Arik: How about I talk less and you talk more, deal?

Josh: You might be on to something. Since you are The Man in writing these kinds of descriptions I might lean on you to lend a hand. I say this because I am already learning that many friends have “The One” but who they think I should hang out with does not seem to jive with my ideas.

Steven: Once we get the “job description”... scratch that we will call it a “hiring profile” I will be sure you see it.

Minnesota Headhunter

Amybeth Hale just left me this link on Twitter. She thinks #23 is most important: A Guide to Holiday Romance: Girls to Avoid

I forgot to mention in my last comment a funny exchange on Facebook with my best friend and I. He is who I sit next to and travel with for Gopher football games...

Jason: The Gophers back in the Rose Bowl or Paul on a date...this year we may finally have an answer to which will occur first.

Me: Dude.... where's the love?

Jason: If it's any consolation I would bet on you over the Gophers




I love the list and goals, if you live life through child like eyes much of these will be accomplished with just that one change. As for the dating piece, it is about damn time :)I would love to hear what you are looking for there are applications I can send your way! EMC

Lesley Farnham

Outstanding list Paul - honest and heartfelt. Still can't believe I've known you for over 20 year (getting near 25 - oh, that's scary) and never knew you didn't swim. Thinking back on our good ol' HS days --- we did do way more cruising the lakes and laying on the beach or grass. Did we ever go in the water????

So - other than football - what are you looking for in a lady?

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