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Amybeth

You are a man of many layers Paul. The fact that you didn't sell out your dream for a pinch of security makes me respect you even more. As for the advice you were given, you know I'm around if there's ever anything I can do to help you.

HR Minion

You have to do what's right for you. If you are feeling overloaded now a new job is not going to take the pressure off. It's awesome that you got the opportunity but it's not like you will never get an opportunity like it again. Wait until it's right for you or it will quickly stop being a dream job. And I whole-heartedly agree you need to ask for help more!

Davidtc

Paul,

I have to agree with the unnamed executive in this case. You would have to have been off your rocker to have accepted the job. Well, let's be honest, more off your rocker then you already are buddy.

I also agree that you do need to ask for more help and there is a hoard of people who are more than willing to help myself included.

Honestly, I can't say what I would pay for my dream job. I have not seen it yet. I know what it looks like in a lose manner but it's a constantly moving target because of changes I see in the industry.

Aaron Weiche

Paul- Thanks for sharing this experience and your thoughts on this. As a guy who interacts with you on Twitter, it's great to see the depth and passion you have in your decision making, work and life. Keep doing what you do with that passion and the right things will come your way ... they already are. Good for you.

Kate-Madonna

Once again, you wrote it with grace and the insight that I hope to someday have. You are a walking representation to job seekers of how to live with passion, and a compass that isn't afraid to point to, "It's time for me."
Proud of you.

@girlmeetsgeek

Ivesdigital

@amybeth - Would you say he is more like an onion or cake with his layers? (Shrek)

Paul - When you work for yourself, you hustle every day to make your job mold and fit to be your dream job. The theory is do what you love and the money will follow. So if the last 2 years, and looking ahead to 2010 are providing enough money for you and your family to be comfortable, then put forth a game plan to make the needed changes (and ask for help) to continue to mold working for yourself into "your dream job."

My guess is doing a job you love, where you're the boss, you are already putting in 60+ hours. So was it the time commitment of the new gig or was it that what you really want you already have, you just need to continue to shape it and mold it to fit with your changing family/friends goals?

Good luck. Good choice.

Account Deleted

Wow -- I really feel the internal battle, which I relate to. But I am on the other side looking out.

I have the stability but envy the freelancers. Difference is, nobody comes with a (non)job offer! I run that dialogue myself.

It seems you already have your dream job and have enjoyed the price you paid.

Ryan Mathre

Paul - Great post. It is obvious that you were torn by this offer but that you ultimately trusted your gut and made the right decision.

Security is nice (especially in this economy) but I'm not sure if a 3-year commitment and the regimented schedule is the type of security you were looking for.

As Henry Ford once said, "The only real security that a man can have in this world is a reserve of knowledge, experience and ability.”

@ryanmathre

Jason Lancaster

This is a great blog post for a few reasons, but my favorite is that you've managed to express a lot of things I think and feel on a regular basis...which is something I can't do myself. I'm going to send this to some friends and family members. Thanks.

Crystal

Paul - you are NOT nuts for continuing on the path you have created. I think the job offer only affirms that you are doing the right things in order to be successful. Perhaps that is the push you need to take your own work to the next level?

Some people say, "the grass is always greener on the other side" and it is not too often that people have the courage to say, "MY grass is greener."

Good for you.

Tracy Tran

In my experience, I had a dream job 5 years ago at an organization I was interning in their HR dept. It was the greatest working experience I ever had. They had an opening for an HR Asssistant position and I was open to it, but knowing from the position first hand, I didn't want that job. Since then, I never had that same feeling.

My biggest mistake was going for the bigger offer. If I had felt so comfortable and knew there will be a few bumps, I would of apply and taken the job.

I've worked for another organization for 3 years and quit because the position wasn't suited for me.

I have my own company and although I started last year and got little business, I felt like an intern 5 years ago and met a lot of wonderful people on my own terms.

So, my advice is if this company is offering the same things or enhance it, take it; but if it's altered of not your liking, don't take it.

From the looks of it, you are doing fine on your own.

Tiffany

Life is too short to do what others want or expect of you.. you need to live your dream out the way you choose, and you are already blessed with a great network of support personally and professionally...from my perspective you are living that dream today and though the decision to stay the course is hard... I am sure when you look back you will be a much happier man! Best of luck to you in the New Year.. I look forward to taking part in and supporting you in the next phase of your dream!

Jennifer McClure

For someone who's recently copped to being lame on his blog - you have certainly come out swinging! :)

Great post and thanks for sharing this experience with your readers. By doing so, you've given encouragement to those who are living or pursuing their dream, but also exposed your thought process that each of us can model in choosing the best opportunity for ourselves.

As I was reading the bullet points at the beginning of your post, I was thinking - that's the job you already have! Sometimes it's all about your perspective...

Wishing you the best and most personally successful year EVER in 2010!

Minnesota Headhunter

Friends, thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. It means a lot that you take the time to stop by. And even if you think I am NUTS not say it and stand behind me anyway :)

I did a second post today:
Theme for 2010: Don’t Look Back
http://www.mnheadhunter.com/mh/2009/12/theme-for-2010-dont-look-back.html

I think I have spent so much time generally thinking, wondering, and pondering or worse worrying about what people think that I have been doing a lot of second and third guessing.

So while I care about what people think I am going to shed some of this weight. But do me a favor, if I get out of line say something.

There is someone I want to thank specifically for something she said and since she left a comment I want to thank her (again).

Kate, you have no idea how much your comment during your presentation that October morning impacted when you said, "You have to give yourself permission."

That is easily one of the most important moments of 2008 for me. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

So before I really start to ramble...

Happy New Year!!!

P.

www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=632019852

I had to run on the treadmill to think about the right answer. I'm in the same boat. We are kindred spirits. People come to you with opportunities when you're not looking. It happens.

So here we go.

Part of me totally agrees with you. Owning your own schedule and being responsible for your own success/failure is part of the American dream. If you don't have to compromise, don't.

Part of me thinks that sucking it up and building wealth is also part of the American dream. Working long, hard hours and sacking away money helps us to build stability and peace-of-mind when we are closer to retirement.

I worry about denial, Paul. I wonder if we're making brilliant long-term decisions based on principle or if we are blowing our chances because we are making emotional, short-term decisions based on fear and uncertainty?

Okay, I'll see you in therapy.

xo/laurie

JibberJobber_Guy

Yeah, I think you are nuts. But I thought that before this post. ;)

I also think you would stay up til 3, or get up at 3, even if you had that job. I think it's more your nature than your job.

I was offered a job shortly after I started my own company (www.JibberJobber.com). It was hard to turn down health insurance and stability (whatever that means). But after a day of thinking and talking with my wife, we decided to move forward on our own.

We could touch more people, and be affect our income more, on our own, than in a job. Not that either of those are impt to you, but they were to us.

Since then I've had a few other opportunities I've passed on and make the decision to NOT do them (bad english, eh?) were easy to make, and once I made them, it was easy to move on.

Opportunities come and go. Whether you work for yourself, or for a company (sounded like a great opportunity), you'll always be awesome. And, if they suck the life out of you, you'll figure out when it's time to leave. Because you know what it's like to be without, which is something that scares the ____ out of many people who have always had that "stable" job.

Good job expressing your feelings about this very difficult decision.

Amy Bryant

Sir Paul,

Sounds to me like you'd better write down your dreams for all areas of your life, 'cuz the universe is listening.

:O) Amy

P.S. Bravo to you for trusting your gut.

GL HOFFMAN

Nice revealing post, Paul. Good for you. First for being so good as to have aerned such an enticing offer and second for being so aware of what you want to refuse it.
Here is to an exciting new decade.
GL HOFFMAN
www.whatwoulddadsay.com
www.linkup.com

Bob Tarver

Paul:

A great post, it makes you rethink what we as job seekers are really looking for within a job and a life balance. The post also shows what several of us who not only follow you on twitter & attended your webinars, you have a passion & a belief in what you are doing. Never lose sight of that.

When it comes to what I want in a dream HR job..would be a Director of HR position for either a Sports team or Casino Gaming company. each comes with its excitement ( and nightmares) HR for me has always been a 24/7/365 job ( minus vaca) I was a "on-call" guy so...no new surprises...just need the right salary

Minnesota Headhunter

Laurie: I guess we will find out while in our rocking chairs what was the best way to go.

Jason: The good thing is if I am nuts so are you and now I have company.

Amy: Not so much my dreams but I have now added 2010 To Do's http://www.mnheadhunter.com/mh/2010/01/my-11-to-dos-for-2010.html

GL: I am looking at you and trying to find your footsteps. Not gonna lie, I would like to get some percentage of the success you have had.

Bob: I look forward to the day when my friends are no looking for jobs and either I can stop doing the job seeker sessions or at least change them to how to find a job when you have a job.

IT_Innovation

Paul,

Maybe your dream job should be as a writer.

I have come to know your energetic writing voice in 140-character bursts these last few months on Twitter. Now I see what happens if you remove the character limit. The flood gates open. Watch out! Authentic self ahead! Thanks for sharing your story in such a compelling fashion.

Randy

Julia Erickson

Paul,
what a great post!

I'm struck by a couple of things: 1) you immediately manifested your dream job! and 2) it wasn't really your dream job because it didn't leave you room for other relationships and activities that are important to you. I will use this story with my clients to help them see the power of specificity, in all its aspects.

Thanks for sharing it with us. Julia

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